Alternative Therapy – Try Gratitude & Kindness

A study finds that troubled people can reap enormous benefits from keeping a journal that focuses their attention on the good things in life.

Waiting times for psychological counseling can be long. That makes it doubly hard on those who are seeking therapy: not only is treatment delayed, they’re also more likely to drop out prior to their initial appointment—and less likely to go on to seek help elsewhere.

So it’s urgent that those who are on a wait-list know if there’s something they can do to help themselves in the meantime. But is there?

Well, according to a paper published just earlier this year in the Journal of Happiness Studies, there might be a way to turn this unhappy waiting time into a healthy self-guided treatment all its own.

The researchers rounded up 48 people who were on a waiting list to receive psychotherapy, who reported problems ranging from depression and anxiety to substance abuse and eating disorders. Participants were assigned to one of three groups:

  • In the first, they were asked to keep a gratitude journal. “There are many things in our lives, both large and small, that we might be grateful about,” read the instructions. “Think back over the past day and write down up to five things in your life that you are grateful or thankful for.”
  • The second group kept a journal about kindness: “Kind acts are behaviors that benefit other people, or make others happy. They usually involve some effort on our part. Be sure to include at least one kind act that you did intentionally.” Like the first group, they were also asked to talk about their moods that day.
  • The third group—which acted as a control—was asked to write about their daily mood, noting their expectations for the following day, their sense of connectedness with others, and their overall satisfaction with life.

So, did this 14-day intervention help people waiting for therapy? Did it make them more grateful, kinder, and happier?

The researchers were looking for yes to all these questions—but that’s not the story their data gave them. Those in the gratitude group did report feeling more grateful at the end of these two weeks, but those in the kindness group didn’t get the same kind of benefit. That is, those who counted their kindnesses didn’t come out kinder because of it, suggesting that gratitude, but not kindness, can be cultivated in this short amount of time.

Despite this asymmetry, at least both the kindness and gratitude groups showed measurable improvements over those who simply monitored their mood. Both the kindness and gratitude groups enjoyed a higher percent of happy days, where they felt optimistic and expected the best. They were also more satisfied with their lives, which they perceived to be more meaningful, and they felt more connected with others each day.

In effect, all of these positive outcomes—this increased sense of connectedness, enhanced satisfaction with daily life, optimism, and reduced anxiety—address in some way the problems which qualified participants for the study in the first place. (Remember, they were all clinically distressed and seeking therapy that was at least more than a month out.)

So these results suggest that this brief intervention—which was self-guided, and lasted only two weeks—didn’t just increase feelings of gratitude. Keeping lists of gratitude and kindness made people feel happier, more connected, and more meaningful—doing the work that therapy is partly designed to do, all before a single professional session.

This isn’t the first study to suggest that gratitude and kindness interventions are beneficial. But it is perhaps the first to suggest that these brief, self-administered positive psychological strategies aren’t just for happy people who are looking to be happier. They can work for a group that needs help—“not [just] as end states,” write the authors, “but as emotional experiences that themselves have the capacity to stimulate positive change.”


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  1. Excellent read. To add, writing a journal allows you to articulate your thoughts and actions and see that you are on a journey. Another thing that helps people is drawing a picture of what the end of the journey looks like. While going on their journey, they update what that picture will look like. When done daily, it’s a very powerful mind bending exercise.

  2. I, some time ago, published this article: And if we try with kindness?
    It’s not easy, but the soft approach is often the winning one. According to a study published in the New York Times, 40% of people admit to being sloppy but justify it with the lack of time!! Yeah, because we live in the era of impatience, while being gentle requires patience. Yet, let’s face it, there can’t be anymore of the ongoing competition and unrestrained selfishness of these years. Meritocracy as the survival of the strongest and arrogant has made its time. Getting in touch with others, instead, creating a good coexistence climate, means managing a situation.
    No gentle people are born, you become, you have to work hard. Kindness is the first step in relationships: it means to feel the other worthy of respect, listening. Its basic ingredient is trust. It also helps to make a career: to show interest in a colleague strengthens the sense of belonging, attention to others creates cohesion, a gentle manager is authoritative. Kindness is a useful deterrent to disarm the aggression (others and ours). Its keywords are: generosity, authenticity, empathy.