All About Balance

In order to recover our fragmented selves, we must be willing to excavate them, piece by piece, and free them from the inner prison of our minds.

Sometimes we just do not know how strong we are until something breaks us, shattering the collective pieces of ourselves into a fragmented puzzle that only we can reassemble. It is quite a daunting task to step up and reflect upon the things we would rather forget.

These are the moments that haunt us, rattling the cages of our subconscious minds where we have imprisoned them, sometimes for decades. They are angry…they are in pain…and they beg you for release.

When you are ready to reflect upon these moments, a beautiful space is created for a new you to emerge, freeing you from the ghosts of the past.

In as much as our thoughts and/or attitudes about our experiences manifest in the outer landscape of our lives, so too, do they manifest in our bodies. They are constantly sending us signals about the status of our inner environment, especially when there is an imbalance in the system.

Issues we are continually trying to avoid will eventually present themselves as discomfort in the mind and the body. The longer they are repressed, the greater an opportunity for an illness to take hold and hijack our lives. I had been a POW of my own pain long enough. The only one coming to my rescue would be me.

Humpty Dumpty sat on a wall, Humpty Dumpty had a great fall; All the King’s horses and all the King’s men, couldn’t put Humpty together again.

~Mother Goose

I was Humpty Dumpty. To put myself back together again, I knew I would have to do some digging. The pieces were buried so deep, that I found it difficult to breathe. They choked me when I went diving for them, so angry at me for my ignorance. I turned my back on their pain and left them for dead.

The deeper I went, the harder it was to bubble to the surface for air. But I had made the decision to confront my demons, so I needed to have a dedicated support system in place to help guide me through the process. However, your friends, family, doctors, and therapists can only be there to help support you through such a process, but they cannot heal you. That job is yours alone.

So often we go to the doctor hoping they can fix what is broken. When they cannot, we become frustrated and depressed. However, if we recognize the connection between our psychological state and the physiological impact it has on our bodies, we begin to understand that we have the power over our condition and need not be the victims of our circumstances.

 We are powerful beings, and our bodies have an intelligence all their own. It is all about restoring the balance by emptying our inner closets of all those skeletons we left clanging around, bones intact, and claiming ownership for every decision we have made along the way. 

The key to healing of any kind is one’s own willingness to allow it by making significant changes in attitude.

I am no psychologist, but I do like to consider myself a student of the game. Our mental attitude has a defining effect on the outcome of every aspect of our lives. From following a particular career path to choosing a life partner, our mental attitudes attract the perfect mate.

Even if we are facing dire circumstances, we can do so with humility and grace. But if we have an attitude of helplessness, then we are helpless. The “Law of Attraction” is what it is, and we will attract other helpless souls to our inner circle. Then we become participants in a feeding frenzy of collective misery. We get back what we put out there, so why not be hopeful rather than helpless.

The key to healing of any kind is one’s own “willingness” to allow it by making significant changes in attitude. It moves us forward, just like walking briskly with our heads held high, and has an amazing “feel good” chemical effect on our bodies. Having a healthy mindset helps us to make better decisions. And those decisions can be the difference between succumbing to, and surviving trauma of any kind. 

We do not need magic to transform our world; We carry all the power inside of ourselves already.

~J.K. Rowling

I have utilized the practice of massage and bodywork, in conjunction with periods of psychotherapy as well, to enhance my own process of healing over a period of years. It has provided me with a safe and nurturing environment for emotional trauma to be released in a healthy, controlled manner.

In fact, I became such a believer in the positive physiological and psychological effects of this work, that I left a very secure, albeit a toxic job, after 15 years in favor of becoming a practitioner of the healing arts that I had come to depend on to restore my health and well-being.

Working through and releasing the pain I was in was like my being resurrected from the dead. I would eventually become the person I most needed to be…My own healer.

You are the master of your own emotions, with the ability to recreate yourself anew in every moment of your life.

Choosing a qualified therapist for this type of emotional release work is especially important in assuring you the best care for your individual needs. A bodyworker must have sufficient training in the physiological effects of psychological trauma on the body.

They must also have a well-developed ability to stay grounded and focused in the present moment to assist you in doing so as well. The release of trauma from the body can create palpable discomfort for you both.

A highly skilled and empathetic practitioner is an enormously powerful partner in your healing process, but you are the master of your own emotions with the ability to recreate yourself anew in every moment of your life.

Excavating your inner obstacles takes time and patience, but the rewards of stepping up to the challenge bring with it a sense of peace and resolution to all your inner conflicts.

Believe in yourself~ in the power to control your own life, day by day.

Believe in the strength that you have deep inside, and your faith will help show you the way.”   

 -Larry S. Chengges