Add Value to the Lives of Others

Many of us have been educated to think that we need to take more than we can before other people can even take our part. But there is also another paradigm, which is based on the concept of community, according to which helping others, giving something of ourselves, is the way to achieve success and happiness. Furthermore, when we are busy helping others, we have less time to focus on what is bad in your life and we better appreciate what we have.

If we try to think of our life, to every person who was important to us, who gave us added value at some level, we will notice that the bond was very strong. Well, the closer the relationship we will be able to create with each other, the greater the contribution we will have in our lives. Adding value to others, in fact, is not only the key to success, but also to enjoy a fulfilling and satisfying life.

There are different ways to add value, that is, to commit ourselves to provide something really useful to those around us and the type of contribution is not important, but rather that what we give is authentic and without a second purpose.

  • To give value to the lives of others we must, for example:
  • Knowing and listening to the needs of the person to whom we refer, knowing the topics of which they love discussing, the interests, their needs.
  • To think about what we have to offer to other people, what kind of skills, knowledge, resources, and connections that we can put to the benefit of others.
  • To share our skills, teach someone to do something or do it better, without asking for anything in return. Sharing our knowledge freely when others ask. Lending our experience, skills, and knowledge by adding value to relationships. Helping people to be and / or become the best version of themselves, to see the potential they have inside and then encourage them not to give up or slow down. Helping them to reach their personal goals in an honest and sincere way.
  • Focusing on others. The more we strive to contribute in a useful way to the life of the others, the more our happiness becomes tied to theirs. The more we focus on the added value we can give to the lives of others, the more our world expands. And as our world expands, our opportunities increase, which in turn brings greater value to our lives, generating success. Trying to find a solution for others we will find out unexpectedly that they will feel involved and will involve us in their projects. This will create a win-win relationship.

Sometimes, when we try to help others, we are afraid of failing or making a mistake that will make us lose face, thus diminishing our ability to add value. In reality it is the opposite. Failure and mistakes make us human! When others see the genuineness and vulnerability, we gain not only in credibility, but sharing the mistake, we help them not to commit it.

When we put ourselves in the perspective of giving value to others, we must avoid worrying about what comes back to us.

We must not think of adding value to the lives of others as an exchange or barter. Rather, let us consider it as an investment in the growth of a community. It is important to seize the opportunity to invest in others and their personal growth so that we can generate success with value creation.

Finally, let us remember that people need to know that what they are doing is valuable and is appreciated. Showing appreciation and recognition for what the other has achieved is a concrete way to give them value.


Aldo Delli Paoli
Aldo Delli Paoli
Aldo is a lawyer and teacher of law & Economic Sciences, "lent" to the finance world. He has worked, in fact, 35 years long for a multinational company of financial service in the auto sector, where he held various roles, until that of CEO. In the corporate field, he has acquired skills and held positions as Credit Manager, Human Resource Manager, Team leader for projects of Acquisition & Merger, branch opening, company restructuring, outplacement, legal compliance, analysis and innovation of organizational processes, business partnerships, relations with Trade Unions and Financial Control Institutions. After leaving the company, he continued as an external member of the Board of Directors e, at the same time, he has gone back practicing law and was a management consultant for various companies. He has been also a columnist for newspapers specializing in labor law, automotive services and work organization. His interests include human behavior in the organizational environment, to the neuroscience, the impact of new technologies, the fate of the planet and people facing poverty or war scenarios. He loves traveling, reading, is passionate about many sports, follows the NBA and practices tennis.

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  1. True and wise words Aldo. We tend to naturally be ‘me’ centerred… takes a concentrated effort to develp skills at becoming ‘others’ centerred. Even the simple act of listening seems to be a lost art. I know I have to work at it. Great reminder to us all! Thank you for sharing

    • Thanks Mike for reading and commenting.
      In reality, active listening is a necessary first step. In the political environment, however (and perhaps even some manger) there is always a lot of willingness to listen, but concrete actions are not followed then !!
      Anyway, yes, every one of us loves to be listened to and not interrupted, especially now that we are all in a hurry ……… and only online !!
      Graxie again and keep following me, it makes me feel your opinion.

  2. Aldo, your observations in addition to your overall thought process that you put forward in this article are all very astute. I agree that helping others is an investment in the betterment of the wider community. Thank you, Aldo for sharing your dearth of wisdom.

    • Thanks Joel.
      You see, I used to “do” something that others couldn’t do, not because they were physically hindered but rather superficial, lazy, listless, slothful, etc.
      Then I became convinced that what is really useful for helping others means allowing them to grow, improve and become stronger. Don’t make the mistake of replacing them with solving problems. But rather to help them understand how to do it, what they need to succeed. And this belief is fundamental to improving things even in a community, in a team, in the long term.

      • Laziness, lack of motivation l, laziness are serious conditions that will lead to nowhere. If you cannot be reached 7n terms of motivation and drive a productive life will not await you. You obviously do, can do, and have done much in your life and will likely continue to do so. That is what defines you.

  3. Thank you, Aldo, for a truly wonderful message about adding value to other people’s lives.

    You have given us a very powerful base to start doing just that, and, there are literally millions of ways of adding value to all people’s lives but, all of these should have its source from our inner being. Appreciation, encouragement, simple understanding, sharing time and whatever, and the list never will ever end.

    Adding Value is a key that opens many doors, including the doors to our own heart.

    “Good works is giving to the poor and the helpless, but divine works is showing them their worth to the One who matters.” Criss Jami

    “Happiness is the ultimate purpose of life and supreme happiness comes from adding value in others life.” Debasish Mridha

    • Thanks Jonathan, I appreciate your attention to my thoughts.
      I believe we must always remember that if we want to truly relate to those around us (we are never really alone) we cannot forget others, get out of our ego, share, give and receive learning.

  4. What a beautiful demonstration of your core message-to add value to people’s lives without attachment, Aldo. I appreciate this message very much as I, like you, see this as “an investment in the growth of community.” Knowing what enriches other people’s lives and giving generously with that knowledge becomes its own fulfillment. I like all the suggestions you’ve offered. I call this being in love and service-living in contribution to the quality of lives around me. I would add that’s there’s freedom from that fierce agenda, pitching, gripping, desperation of needing something in return. For instance, I make a point not to grocery shop when I’m really hungry. Or date when I’ve felt desperate for love, kindness, affection. Many people can feel that underlying energy of hidden or not so hidden agenda of “I must get something back!”

    I would add that giving from wholeness and an experience of abundance remains optimal. Giving from resentment or a martyr mentality is not optimal.

    We are all in this together. Lifting one another up feels amazing! Thank you for this wonderful reminder to do so because doing so enriches our lives….all boats rise!