A Visitation – Dream Or Reality?

When a loved ones die, it can leave us with such a strong longing to see them again, if only for a second, or just one-more-time.  And, this longing can be consuming. What if…we could connect with them again and spend some valuable time together?  How often have you had a dream that made you sit up in bed and say, “Wow! That dream was awesome. It was just what I needed.”

Well, I had the best dream last night.

I had set my intention to see one of my best friends who died this time last year from a rare form of Leukemia. We were tennis partners, our husbands played tennis together, and we vacationed in exotic places like the British West Indies Island of Anguilla between my cancer treatments. (Yes, I am a three-time breast cancer survivor whose dream diagnosed her illness missed by the medical community and the tests on which they relied.) She was there for me during all three of my breast cancer treatments and all that they encompassed.

When she died a piece of my heart died. The disbelief and grief that set in once I realized she was truly gone was physically tangible. It covered and suffocated me like a heavy wet blanket.

Months passed, and I realized I needed to see her again if only for a little while, to know where she was, and to see how she was doing.

So I set my dream intention before bed to see her in my dreams. Yeah, I was that desperate.  

During a dream, she walked in and said, “Wanna get a drink?” We sat in a beautiful restaurant with a lovely classy bar, and I ordered a martini while we chatted… just like old times. But, when her martini came, it had sliced carrots and celery in the glass but no liquid. I asked her about this. “Oh I don’t drink anymore,” she said, “but I wanted to see you, too.” Dream or reality?

Setting our dream intention is easier than it sounds. You can even write your intention down on a piece of paper and place it under your pillow to “sleep on it.” This is taking the 5th dimension abstract concept of intention and turning it into a concrete reality in the form of words on paper. Tonight set your dream intention and sweet dreams.  The video podcast below takes you through the steps of creating your dream intention. Enjoy the show. Please enjoy the Show ⤵︎


Kat O'Keefe-Kanavos
Kat O'Keefe-Kanavos
Kathleen (Kat) O’Keefe-Kanavos is the award-winning author of Surviving Cancerland, and co-author of Dreams That Can Save Your Life. She’s a three-time cancer survivor, and co-publisher/editor of WEBE Books Publishing. Her dreams diagnosed her illness as seen on Dr. Oz, Doctors, NBC News, American Express Open, in Newspapers and magazines. She’s a Contributor to Chicken Soup for the Soul, TV/Radio Host/Producer- Dreaming Healing on DV7Radio/TV Network, Wicked Housewives On Cape Cod™, Kat Kanavos Show, Internationally Syndicated Columnist in BIZCATALYST 360°, Dream Columnist in Positive Tribe Magazine, and Desert Health Magazine, Keynote Speaker, Performance Coach who taught Special Ed & Psychology @USF, and Lecturer who promotes patient advocacy and Spiritual guidance. She is co-author to the inspiring books; Chaos to Clarity: Sacred Stories of Transformational Change and Crappy to Happy: Sacred Stories of Transformational Joy

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    • So glad you loved this Larry Tyler and of course you have frequent visitors. I’d be surprised if you didn’t. Thanks so much for your comment.

    • Raissa, it is a sweet sorrow to seem them in your dreams and then wake up and realize the day has begun again without them in your Daily Life. Thanks for your comment.

  1. Thanks for posting this, Kat! The past connections are tough, because we are, in the end, objective in our current views. It is especially challenging if the one passed away should be at peace – and the dreams do not match our expectations or are reflections of our anxieties instead of a true connection. However, very often the dreams offer closure or rest to our anxiety. The video about setting the intention is important – no matter the topic – dreams are a fantastic tool if we are ready to look into the mirror: past, present or future. 🙂

    • Hi Maria Lehtman, yes, it is distressing when the dream shows our loved one is not yet at rest. Since many of the people we see in our dreams is a reflection of ourselves, it begs the question, “is the unrest a reflection of us or them?” I have had those dreams, too. Either way, our Dreams are a place to work through what holds us or them back. But, I believe that by being able to reconnect with us in our dreams it gives them a sense of continued connection while they work on their distress, or ours. Thanks a million for your insightful comment.

  2. Kat, loved this article and video. It is so important for people to know we have the ability to connect with those who are no longer with us in the physical body. Your experiences and willingness to share them provide a wonderful opportunity to trust what we see and experience in our dreams. Blessings my friend.

    • Jim Phillips, thank you so much for acknowledging what I have always believed, that our loved ones are only a dream away. Thanks a million for your comment.