As Life Ebbs & Flows Are You Patient?
A great phone conversation with a colleague and friend got me thinking about where we are in our lives and all the changes we are experiencing.
A connection on LinkedIn got me thinking about the beach…
The beach is truly my favorite place.
The smell of the ocean.
I am at peace when I am on a beach. I am patient.
In fact, A Gift from the Sea, by Anne Morrow Lindbergh is one of my favorite books.
This beautiful book is about the beach, it’s calm and how Anne leaves her family. She goes to Captiva, Florida, rents a beach bungalow and writes this poignant book.
I used this book as the premise for my college graduation speech.
The sea does not reward those who are too anxious, too greedy, or too impatient. To dig for treasures shows not only impatience and greed but lack of faith. Patience, patience, patience, is what the sea teaches. Patience and faith. One should lie empty, open, choiceless as a beach—waiting for a gift from the sea.
In my speech, I told my classmates to not rush through life, enjoy each moment and be PATIENT with yourself. What is so ironic… is that I STILL do not have the patience I need with myself and where I am in my life. WHY?
I live life with a sense of urgency. Going from one moment or task to the next. I’m working hard every day to LIVE in the moment.
Anne uses the shells she finds on the beach to explain each of the stages of our lives, and talks of the relationships, struggles and joys she encounters. Anne talks of wanting to succeed at living life with grace. Living with grace is hard because life is messy and complicated. “I want a singleness of eye, purity of intention, a central core to my life that will enable me to carry out these obligations and activities as well as I can.” She goes on to say, “By grace, I mean an inner harmony, essentially spiritual, which can be translated into outward harmony.” Anne understood a women’s need to have time alone to recharge and find peace.
Many women struggle with balancing their needs with those they care for: Spouse, children, family, friends, job. There is a lot of juggling. To remain at peace and feel fulfilled is hard. I have needs but feel guilty putting them before my children and husband. If I don’t though, resentment creeps in like a serpent and rears its ugly head. I lead a few lives. One as a wife, a mother, daughter, friend, colleague and a public relations business owner. I strive to live with grace.
Those that know me well, understand the great lengths I go to, to make the balance work. It’s very, very important to me. Time alone with my husband is crucial to our marriage. I need time with my children, my parents/brother, my friends; each segment of my life. This keeps me in the flow I need. It’s never perfect, but it works.
As we get older, our lives change, our needs change, and responsibilities ebb and flow.
Just like the ocean.
Are YOU patient with yourself?
How has your life changed as you have gone through its many changes? Do you strive to live with grace?
Tell me. I want to know your story…