What if we create an easy flow to our future? What if we flow into a dance for humanity that tunes into all our natural gifts and a desire to build future business merged with love to deliver a rich and fulfilling life for all?
Can you imagine your work-life, family, and personal freedom dancing together as we flow through our current world pandemic chaos? Can we use the pause of lockdown and ‘social distancing’ to assess the natural magic of flow and come together to mix individual rhythms to ensure world harmony, economically and socially?
As a young girl, born in the 50’s suburbs of London, England, the third child of four, I longed to sail the high seas and be a stowaway on the tall clippers sailing to a new world, America. I did not live anywhere near the sea. Maybe it was my spiritual contract to adventure in the world and meet different men and women from many cultures and so be living now in the USA in my 7th decade, in 2020.
However, way back then, I had no idea where this desire to flow over the horizon came from. My start in life was very normal, very loving, with no trauma or sorrow. Before I discovered my sea flow at age 11, I was sent to ballet lessons with my sister – I was 4 years old, she was 7. I loved to dance, to flow with music, I hated ballet rigour. My body was not geared to the discipline of pointed toes, the rigid posture, and arched back. I wanted to be free to express myself. To flow. Modern dance called me.
FLOW OF LIFE
Learning about how I could move with my music was natural for me. I would often dance in my living room on my own pretending to be on the stage, hiding my fame from prying eyes. In the 1960’s musical revolution of rock and roll, twist and shake, the music set the scene for my teenage years. I learned the prescriptive ballroom dances my parents begged to know, yet I loved the energy of the Beatles and free dancing. It was a time of liberation in dance.
THE FLOW OF CONVERSATIONS THAT MATTER
My confidence in dance was not replicated in my confidence to speak up. I was relatively reserved in my public chatter as a child and a young adult. OK with my friends but never on a stage. Yet conversations fascinated me. They either flowed and created an energy dance in a room where people gathered on purpose, or the conversations would turn into disruptive arguments or monologues from an authority figure. I remember one such uncle who always stopped the flow of dialogue at family tea parties. Later in my life, I saw that so often in a business meeting where men would rule the day with ‘business only matters’ that women felt stifled by the lack of flow. Wherein lies our choice to flow when we deem it the way to share ideas?
CONTROLLING TRADITIONS “shoulds and should nots”
I do believe that everyone who is born with the natural ability to learn to walk, can dance in some way. Yet so often people as adults tell me they cannot dance. If we learn to speak, we learn sentences and the ability to converse. If we can walk and talk, my perspective is that if we learn to flow, we can dance and create magical conversations, maybe even at the same time!!!
In the past, controls we have been educated by as we grow (parents, schools, teachers, peers, etc ) that places limitations and sets the boundaries on the dance of life that flowed freely and with expression of who we are. Self-expression has grown with entrepreneurial growth since the 90’s and yet flow has been stifled on many corporate agendas, with too much focus on wealth, power, and control.
Now our pandemic pause has brought us to value life and business to a new rhythm, with lockdown and social distancing, we now more in touch with what we missed.
CONVERSATIONS ARE LIKE DANCES
We can learn the steps yet if we are free to use our natural rhythms in our daily lives, maybe we can recognise a flow of life that is better? Especially as I paused and reviewed my world, magical conversations become my focus as these define our future, not the past. Magical conversations are creative spaces to seed great ideas from different perspectives – without judgement, anger, or coercion – simple rules that change the paradigm of control and limitations.
I knew I could dance, so I looked at the flow to find my answers.
Magical Conversations became like a dance to me. It is a dance that is in a flow, aligned, and magical. It is not stuck in a backwater or ferociously battered on a stormy sea. I can see now looking back, where the currents, tides, and underwater caverns sucked my confidence away and led me into conflicts, arguments, and controlling toxicity as a young adult new to the world of work. I pondered where the strict rules of business limited my joy. I questioned myself throughout my life as to where I got stuck when it came to conversations that mattered in my life. I knew I could dance, so I looked at the flow to find my answers.
THERE IS A RHYTHM AND EXPRESSION TO LIFE’S CONVERSATIONS
“It is not what you do that counts, it is the loving you put into the doing that matters”
I learned steps to dance ballroom, tango, Latin, disco, street dance, etc. The enjoyment differed as to whether I was the owner of the dance or merely dancing the steps. As a young girl, I danced the sailor dance “The Hornpipe” (must have been a sign of my soon to be alignment with sailing) It was my signature dance. I realised that the way I expressed my dance routine made it more joyous to me and to my audiences! This was my first realisation that how we enjoy our actions matters. We perform best when the content and the knowledge is what we are passionate about and love doing. I found this quote one day and felt I could have written this: “It is not what you do that counts, it is the loving you put into the doing that matters” Anon
FLOW NEEDS BALANCE AND ALIGNMENT
I started sailing aged 11, family holidays in the west of England. I fell in love with my unknown adventure to come. The flow of the sea, as with dance and conversation, was exhilarating and rewarding. It required core knowledge to know the glory and the pitfalls. The sea – like conversation and dance – can be dangerous and deep and utterly changeable in a moment. The full experience enriching and uplifting when we perform with our heart (the emotion) as well as our mind (the steps) and our spirit (natural essence and meaning of life) The mix is dynamic and genuine when you get it right. However, you need a sense of balance to sway and move with the waves and the movement of the dinghy. If you go wrong, you will be in the water!! Like stepping on some one’s toes in a dance, or uttering a wrong word and being chastised falsely, you feel a fool when you are thrown out of the vessel you thought was so safe. Balance gives YOU the control. You and the wind are in a dance and a conversation!