6 Tips – How To Win Over Employees & Influence Them With Leadership

Being a leader may come in several ways including appointment, as a gift, popularity (as in voting), and many other ways. However, as history has proven, being in a leadership position and leading are two different things. While many leaders approach leadership with a top-down approach, the best way to lead is from behind or below as one perceives their organization.

Research into human psychology has led the researchers to reach certain conclusions which determine how effective one can be as a leader. Rather than adopting dictatorship and leading through fear, one can take the following tips to be a leader who motivates people to so the right thing and pushes themselves always to do their best even without supervision.

  1. Do Less Talking, And More Listening
When people have your attention, they will feel appreciated and think better, work harder and be loyal to the team. If one needs to have faithful team members, they should express their opinion after full comprehending the ideas of those below them. Cutting into the speech of other people will only demean them to such an extent that they will find no value in expressing themselves. As a leader, one should know that being at the helm of a team does not mean that they know everything. There are stories told of how the dishwasher gave the firm an idea that turned around the fortunes of the business. We are all aware of the second coming of Steve Jobs. If the then CEO of Apple would have ignored Jobs’ contribution, the popular iPhone would never be there.
  1. Never Oppose People Directly
When you say words like “You are wrong,” you are condemning the speaker to a situation where they are but clueless about their words. Therefore, aim at objectively expressing your opinion and stating why your point of view is better than theirs in solving the problem at hand. Direct opposition always serves to insult the speaker and should be avoided at all times.
In fact, when one avoids direct opposition, they will encourage a democratic environment in which those below them freely express their opinion. With free speech and opinion, the team will likely be a better one as ideas will flow freely leading to a better working environment for all members of the team.
  1. Be an Example to Learn From
Among the most notable leaders of our age are Elon Musk, Barrack Obama, and the late Steve Jobs. One thing that set them aside from other leaders was their resolve always to lead by example. For his part, Elon Musk is currently the chief executive officer of two leading technology firms. His employees tell of a leader who works harder than anyone else in the business.
Barrack Obama has not only positively influenced those below him, but other leaders across the globe for his actions and leadership approach. He provided a great example for people to emulate. A real leader should be an example rather than a pusher.
  1. Make Yourself Part of the Team
Making yourself a part of the team will translate into much better work results than people think. For example, when someone makes a mistake, start with mentioning a mistake you once made and how much it cost you or your team.
Your team will understand several things from this information. First, they will know that you understand their situation as you are as human as they are. Secondly, they will understand the consequences of their actions and thus avoid the mistakes on their volition rather than from fear. Setting yourself apart as a blameless God will only pressure the team members into making the mistake of trying to reach your standards without any success.
  1. Point Out Mistakes Indirectly
A mistake is what it is and should be treated as such. No one makes a mistake intentionally. If so, it would be an intentional act and not a mistake. If those below you make a mistake, do not rush into publicly scolding them for what they have done. Even private scolding is not a good way to go about it.
What one should do is make a reference to the mistake without necessarily pointing fingers. Afterward, when alone with the individual, state to them that their mistake is not a welcome part of the team and they should rectify that. You will see wonders when the employee rises from that mistake knowing they are appreciated, and their performance is not taken for granted.
  1. Give Honest Praise
Human psychology changes little when people grow up. The same way you hated your harsh elementary teacher whose two questions in the assignment seemed like a hundred of them and was willing to do five similar issues on a daily basis for another, the leaders who genuinely praise their workers see to more productivity compared to the others.
Most leaders will push their employees who will then naturally resist the pushing. However, telling that tea girl that she does a bigger job than anyone else may go a long way in making her wake up each morning to brew tea for your firm. Everyone likes a compliment here and there no matter how small it may be as it translates to a lot more.

As a leader, you should focus on making everyone on the team feel that they are important and their contribution, no matter how little it may be, is highly valued. What kind of a leader are you?


Andreas Jones
Andreas Jones
ANDREAS is the Founder of Combat Business Coaching, #1 Bestselling author of Business Leader Combat, marketing strategist, business growth expert, advisor, consultant and army combat veteran. Andreas works with small and medium-sized businesses and help them build meaningful businesses so that they can have more profit, fans and freedom. Service in the US Army forged Andreas’s character. It tested him, tested his endurance, faith, and internal fortitude. He describes it as “a trial by fire” and remains profoundly grateful for it. When he finally left the Army he did so with an astute understanding of self-ownership, implementing a vision, and the value in establishing trust and reputation. Jones applied all that he had learned serving his country to a series of jobs, including that of a VP at Sun Trust Bank. Each of his positions have endowed him with the type of knowledge required to start his own business and to provide a workable schematic for others to follow. Andreas has taken his hard-won Army lessons into the world of business, continuing to learn new skills and insight. Each fresh challenge, project or position has helped him grow into the individual he is today.

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  1. Good points. I’d add that being a leader is having the wisdom and strength to change when it’s needed.

    For instance, there is a time to talk, and there is a time to listen. The amount you do of each is not nearly as important on when you do it.

    Then there is honest praise. Sometimes you must pump up someone’s ego for the greater good of the team and the company. Sometimes being a leader means you cannot be completely honest.

    Many get distracted by what a leader does, and not pay much attention when he/she does it. Every one of your methods can yield a positive or negative based on the time they’re used.

    A leader knows what to do, and when to do it.

    • Do less talking. I have a very collaborative environment in my store. Our success depends on each team member being engaged and I make sure they have a voice. It is amazing what can happen when you listen to an engaged team.

    • Absolutely wonderful information Andreas! I wanted to second Larry’s favorite — I always tell clients and students that its amazing what we can learn when we take the time to listen.

      In further support, I’ve met one-too-many leaders who believe that what they have to say ‘is more important’. Truth be told, when we try to force others to listen to us, it’s the fasted way for them to ‘tune out’. Taking the time to listen is an amazing tool toward empowering our staff, too~