Even if there was a tragedy or a lot of sorrow in your life, you can change the way you react to certain events.
When my parents died, at first it seemed hard to learn to live without them. However, I thought about the life they were able to lead. I knew they were now happy to be out of pain.
So, I chose to concentrate about how lucky I was to have great parents and how happy they were now to see relatives and great friends who had passed. I am very certain my mother is the director of fun things to do up there! By looking at death in a different way, the grief was lessened and helped me to become the strong woman I am today. I live life to the fullest every single day. I find something good in every day.
I know, people always wonder about me, because I am so happy. I do smile all the time, and there is a good reason. I love my life! And, you can too. Here are some ideas of what I have done to ensure I keep my ‘happy’ year round.
First of all, you have to decide what makes YOU happy, not someone else. I know so many people who ‘live’ for other people. Just my humble opinion, but if you want to be truly happy, ‘live’ for yourself. Beyond kids, beyond the spouse, make time for you and something you want to do! If you do not take the time to work on you, nobody else will. So, take the time and come up with a ‘happy’ plan.
When you do have a significant other, you do want to consider what makes them happy as well. And hopefully, you have chosen a partner who enjoys the same things as you do. If not, please do not stay in a bad situation. Find a way to get out; life is way too short.
It is amazing to me how many people will approach me and tell me what a nice smile I have. Generally speaking, people want to be around people who are happy.
I have interviewed a lot of people in my business career. I have had people who looked like they were scared to death, and if I had said ‘boo,’ I think they would have jumped out of their skin.
When I have someone interviewing with me, I try to make them feel at ease. Employers want to see the real you. Think about it, if you have someone in front of you who is straight faced, does not look you in the eye, and looks frightened, then chances are the person who walks in, head held high, smiling, and personable will appear more confident than the frightened candidate.
Friends are especially important to my circle of happiness. If someone disrespects me, I do not try to change them or their beliefs to my way of thinking. I simply will move on with other friends who are happy. I do not expend energy on unhappy people. The unhappy is not where I spend my positive energy.
So, what are some things I do to help me in my life’s journey?
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